Well … it’s been nearly five months since I posted anything at all. There are times when life just gets busy, I guess … one day turns into one week, which turns into one month, which turns into five months. Going forward, I am dedicating myself to posting more often. I haven’t even written a new book in months.
What I’d like to touch on a bit today is the idea of getting into a polyamorous relationship. This is something that my husband and I are currently exploring a little, but don’t worry — swinging is still taking place, just not as much.
A polyamorous relationship can be a beautiful, loving thing. In fact, for most polyamorous couples/groups, love is always at its center. It is basically meant for people who want to love multiple partners and be loved by multiple partners. There is obviously sex involved, but there’s more to it than that — at least, there should be.
Whether or not the exploration of a poly relationship is for you, there must be a discussion between both partners. A successful poly relationship takes trust and communication above all else. This includes anyone who you bring into the lifestyle. You must ensure that everyone is on the same page. Exploring with others, for example, is an option with poly “units,” but others discourage this for the sake of safety against STDs and other complications that might arise.
The best case scenario is one where everyone has the same feelings on how the poly lifestyle should work within their “family.” If you have one person who wants to go out and fuck anything with a pulse just because he or she likes the idea of having free reign, or doesn’t want to be left at home sexless on a Friday night, perhaps that person isn’t right for your group.
How many partners are “allowed” should be discussed by the group as a whole or by the persons who start the group or decide to explore a poly relationship with another couple who is already polyamorous. For example, my husband and I have pretty much decided that one extra partner is enough for both of us. Any person who wanted to partner up with us would have to feel the same way. If we were to decide that a third partner for each of us was a desire, then we would have to clear it with all members of our group. We believe that this is the responsible thing to do.
There is also the idea of safety from STDs. Before anyone is allowed to enter our group, we would force them to submit a recent STD test. This is the responsible thing to do. After all, you’re not just protecting yourself and your spouse when you’re involved in a poly relationship. For us, we have decided on everyone getting tested every 4-6 months. That seems like a reasonable timeframe.
So is the polyamorous lifestyle for you? That is really only something you can answer. A big element is the idea of jealousy. Although you can be jealous in certain ways, it is imperative that it doesn’t get out of hand. If your jealousy is affecting your primary relationship or making you resent your partner, then a poly lifestyle may not be healthy for you. In fact, your own toxicity could breed more toxicity if you’re not careful.
Are any of my readers in polyamorous relationships or are thinking about it? If you’re in one, how has it been working for you? What rules have you set? How many partners can each of you have? Do you all have sex together or is each coupling separate? Tell me your stories. :-)
That’s right! Forget Black Friday. Now through December 31st, the prices on most of my older books are being slashed.
I’ve cut these from $2.99 to $.99:
Full Swap Volume One
Full Swap Volume Two
Full Swap Volume Three
Full Swap Volume Four
Full Swap Volume Five
Full Swap Volume Six
Gangbang Geek Trilogy Volume One
Gangbang Geek Trilogy Volume Two
Zombie Sex Slaves
And these have been cut from $3.99 to $1.99:
Full Swap Compilation (Volumes 1-3)
Full Swap Compilation (Volumes 4-6)
I am also working on Full Swap Volume Eight right now, which should be available by the end of the year. Then, after a HUGE delay thanks to my sexual adventures and this little thing called life, I’ll finally be releasing the third book of the Gangbang Geek Trilogy, which will revolve around the world of LARPing.
Also, later this week, I’ll finally be posting the second part of my story about the mean girl.
Oh my gosh! I completely forgot to finish the second part of my “bitch story.” I promise that it will come later this week. I’ve been so busy these past few months, both with my day job and writing a new novel. Plus, I have an announcement on Monday, but I’ll keep that to myself for now.
This seventh volume of Full Swap involves our first foray into Vegas. We’ve talked about playing there, but have never gotten the chance. So we decided to see if we could sin a little in Sin City. This actually took place last Christmas, which should give you an indication of how far behind I am.
Below is the cover.
The book is available on Amazon at http://tinyurl.com/fullswap7.
Yes … I’m back! I’ve had a bunch of personal and financial stuff to work out in the past few months, so I haven’t really felt like discussing the lifestyle too much. I haven’t been writing about it either, although I’m gearing up to pen a couple more Full Swap installments.
For today’s entertainment, I’d like to tell you about the woman from hell. Just to give you an idea of what can happen, in a negative sense, as you attempt to find sexual partners that you connect with.
My husband started talking to this couple online. They weren’t the best looking couple around (neither are we), but the guy — we’ll call him Pete — was very nice. He loved my pictures and his wife — we’ll call her Teri — liked my pictures and those of my husband.
Pete was a bit older. He said that he was 36, but he easily looked to be in his 40s. He had a slim built with very little musculature. His wife was a wee bit chunky and oddly shaped because they had decided to drink a shitload of beer every day. But her face was pretty nice. And she had huge, fake boobs. Like … well, pretty ridiculously big, to be honest. At one point, she had been in great shape and was this petite blonde with a huge rack, but those days were gone. Which was fine by us. We don’t like perfection.
This couple was a bit different. Pete was looking for friends with benefits. He and my husband immediately got along over the phone, talking about movies and TV shows and video games, etc. They had a similar sense of humor. Pete also wanted me and his wife to be friends because, as he put it, “this bitch needs to get out of the house.” She was looking for a girl’s night person. I’m not really a girl’s night kind of girl, but I went with it. After all, it would be pretty cool to have a friendly couple who we could hang out with. We were very adamant that we didn’t simply want to go over and hang out and then fuck every time, and that’s exactly what they were looking for.
Even Teri was excited. Apparently, they had hooked up with a couple who said they wanted the same kind of relationship that they were looking for, but when it came to the girl hanging out with Teri in a girl’s night out kind of thing, she wasn’t interested. Little did I know that the answer as to why would be presented to me very soon.
Our first clue that something might be amiss with these two was the fact that Pete wanted her out of the house so desperately. My husband and I aren’t like that. We work together. We have lunch together. We watch movies together. And we never complain about each other. There are some nights when we’ll have “alone nights,” which basically means that if he wants to play video games while I read or get some writing done, that’s fine by us. We’re both welcome to go out with our friends separately if we want, but we love doing things together. He’s my best friend. Pete and Teri, on the other hand, didn’t seem this way at all. They did seem to drink a lot together, though.
We started getting even more suspicious about their relationship when Teri tried to call me to “chat” one night. I wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone but my husband. Jeff explained this to Pete (we had been stressed out and I don’t like talking on the phone in the first place), but it was clear that Pete was drunk because he basically ignored Jeff’s texts and kept asking if Teri could call me, and then she did so even after my husband explained that we were hanging out together. Pete was pretty rude, but we chalked it up to him being drunk. The next day, things were fine.
At some point, we decided that we all just wanted to hang out together, with no fear of it turning into sex. So on a Saturday, while they were drinking, they began to egg us on about coming over to hang out. We definitely wanted to go because, at the very least, we wanted to hook up with them.
What followed was the opportunity to meet one of the most unpleasant women I have ever come across in my lifetime. Stay tuned for part two in the next 2-3 days and you’ll hear all about it.
My immediate future is filled with a lot of writing, so I’ll make this short and sweet.
The second compilation of my Full Swap series is now on Amazon. This book covers volumes 4-6 of the series. Like the first compilation, it is heavily discounted at only $3.99, and this will be the last compilation that I’m able to do for a while. New volumes are coming, possibly one next week, but after I write that and a few fiction stories, I’ll be taking a short break to spend time with my family … time that doesn’t involve other naked people.
Being a swinger can be a very exciting experience. When you and your partner are in sync, you get to enjoy the experience on a very deep level, bringing you closer together in a way that many couples will never get to realize. Many couples and singles talk about it, but only a fraction ever suck it up and give it a whirl. Of course, many people aren’t equip to handle the lifestyle. Jealousy and anger can often rear its ugly head.
There’s another side to swinging that you simply can’t take for granted — safety. While most of the time, you only need to worry about the many flakes out there, it is necessary that you take certain precautions to enjoy the safety of everyone involved. Here are some quick tips and if you have your own, feel free to add them to the comments:
Voice verify — There are many single males out there who will make up silly stories about their girlfriend or wife being out of town or whatever. Chances are, the guy either doesn’t have a significant other or is going behind her back. To avoid this, make sure the women voice verify with each other. Personally, I don’t like talking on the phone to anyone, so I always make it short and sweet.
Insist on getting a phone number — This probably won’t be a problem since most people have cell phones now. Whatever you do, don’t invite a single guy or couple over to your place without getting the phone number, even if you decide not to voice verify for some reason. The last thing you want is to invite someone over who hasn’t provided you with any personal information except for an anonymous e-mail address.
Meet in public somewhere — Many couples, us included, prefer to invite a couple over for fun without meeting up first, which is why we’ll often chat with someone for a while before inviting them over (although we have, admittedly, taken a risk that they were serial killers in the past). If you’re weary about this, though, meeting in a public place is a good idea. Not only is this safer, you can also make sure that everyone is attracted to each other and wants to continue.
Don’t drink too much — If something does go awry, you don’t want to be sloshed. When my husband and I play, I have a tendency to drink a little more than I should. But Jeff has very little to drink when we’re with a couple for this exact reason.
Find out rules beforehand — Each couple has their own rules. Some are really wild and kinky, to the point where it may be too much for some couples to handle. Discuss any rules of what is and is not permitted before getting together. If not, the other guy — through no fault of his own — might go for ass, spank, slap, etc. and cause a very awkward situation.
Prepare for the worst-case scenario — The chances of someone in this lifestyle being violent is slim to none. However, it’s always a good idea to keep the worst-case scenario in your head. My husband is extremely cautious most of the time, so he always preps in two different ways. First, he gives each couple’s information (clean picture, phone number, e-mail address, etc.) to one of his good friends who knows about everything that he does. Second, he leaves a canister of pepper spray in our bedroom. While this may seem like an extreme precaution, one that we don’t ever expect to use, it’s better to be safe than sorry. After all, unless these people are your friends, you don’t really know them.
Never be afraid to say no — If you don’t get a good feeling about a couple, even after they’ve arrived at your home, don’t be afraid to tell them straight. You’re under no obligation to have sex with them if things feel awkward or uncomfortable.
Although I don’t have access to all of my files, I was able to compile the first three volumes of my Full Swap series into one big — and deeply discounted — volume. Separately, the price of each book is $2.99. But now that they’ve all been out for a while, this first compilation is only $3.99. which cuts the price to only $1.33 for each one. I’ll be doing a second compilation of volumes 4-6, but that’s probably a couple more months down the road, if not longer. I also edited a few areas that we’re quite up to snuff.
Here is the spiffy new cover for this release: